Every long-term relationship hits a point where your love is dwindling. Such ups and downs are common, but handling them can be tricky. Here are some tips to stay in love:
Recognize efforts
Most couples fall into a rough patch because they stop appreciating each other. It’s natural to get swallowed by an exhausting work life, but recognizing your partner is doing little things to make you happy will make them happy, too.
Learn to have productive disagreements
Disagreements that end without a helpful conclusion will only worsen the conflict over time. You should always steer disagreements toward a workable solution; this way, you’ll be able to vent and effectively work on problems.
Small gestures
The smallest actions have the most significant effects, so try to do little things around the house and in the relationship to keep your partner happy. Help them with chores, offer massages when tired, or take the kids to the park while your partner sleeps.
Keep dating
Most long-term couples get comfortable at a certain point in their relationship. Although it’s good, it’s equally important to keep wooing each other. Get flowers, buy chocolates, make them lunch, watch their favorite movies; don’t stop dating.
Find ways to have fun
Relationships are bound to hit a dry spot occasionally, so it’s only better to actively seek random bouts of fun. Crack jokes, find new activities, revisit old dating spots, and keep coming up with ways to stay silly.
Communicate
Communication is the key to success in every relationship. Many long-term couples give up on communicating because they think they understand each other, leading to miscommunication and issues.
Remove the blame
It’s natural to place the blame for something when you’re fighting, but it’s also a great way to go into the doghouse. Your romance may fizzle out if you keep blaming each other for everything that goes wrong.
Put them first
Prioritizing yourself is important, but don’t ignore your partner’s needs. Whenever you’re doing something that might affect them, put yourself in their shoes and try to work toward a scenario that works for both.
Understand the problems
So many couples fight because they think they’ve understood the problem but might be looking at it differently. To avoid misunderstandings, hear each other out and try to understand before you escalate things.
Be a little independent
Being comfortable with each other is good, but it’s unhealthy to be entirely dependent. You can rely on each other while still being independent. Create independent, safe spaces to cool down so you won’t encounter problems.
Be intimate
Older couples have difficulty keeping up with intimacy, but don’t let things affect your game. Try to engage in intimate acts at least once a month or at a workable frequency that suits you both.
Pick your battles
Sometimes, you have to let things go. While you might want to feel petty and hold on to little things that irritate you, it’s best to focus on significant conflicts and work on them instead of bickering over meaningless small things.
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This article was first published at Spatula Desserts.
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