Your child is no longer a toddler but the exact opposite- an adult. This can actually be even harder! While you may know exactly what you should and should not say to a young kid, there are a few things you should never say to your adult child. Take a look at these 12 phrases to avoid, especially if you still want your now-grown-up child to love you.
Note: The content of this article does not reflect the Writer's personal beliefs.
“You Were an Accident”
No matter how old your kid is, they never want to hear that they were a mistake. Maybe you did not plan on having a child but, guess what? You did! And you should love and appreciate them forever, not make them feel like they were unwanted.
“I Wish You Were More Like…”
Telling your child to be more like someone else is hurtful. It will make them feel like they are not good enough for you. No matter the age, never tell your child that you wish they were someone else.
“Why Aren’t You More Like Your Sister?”
Comparing your child to their sibling is a definite no-no! All of your kids are unique, different, and perfect. They have probably been competing with their siblings their entire lives. Now that they are all grown up, just let them be themselves!
“You Should Make More Money”
Now that your children are adults, you should never comment on their financial situation. They are old enough to figure things out on their own when it comes to money. That being said, you should also never freely give them money. Let them support themselves. That’s what adults do.
“You Are Raising Your Kids Wrong”
If your adult child has kids of their own, stay out of the parenting decisions. Just hope and pray that you raised your kids the right way and that they will parent their own children well. Grandparents need to remember they are grandparents, not new parents all over again. They need to keep their parenting comments to themselves.
“You Don’t Look Healthy”
As a parent, you will always be concerned about your child’s health, even when they are adults. But commenting on how bad they look is never nice. There are many other ways to inquire about your child’s health. Do not tell them that they look like a sick mess.
“You Never Call Me”
Your adult children are busy. They have their own lives and they may not always have time to call. That doesn’t mean they forgot about you! Be happy that they are busy, happy, and living life to the fullest! Don’t make them feel guilty for missing one phone call.
“You Shouldn’t Have Married Her/Him”
Talking poorly about your child’s spouse is something you should never do. Even if you despise their spouse, keep your opinions to yourself. Your child does not need mommy to get involved with their personal relationships.
“I’m Moving In With You”
Unless your adult child asks you to move in, you should never utter this phrase. There is a very good chance they would like to live alone or without their parents. You could ask to move in but do not demand.
“When I was Your Age…”
Your child is not you. They have a different life than you had and you should never compare what you did in life to what they are currently doing. Everyone has their own path! Just be happy for your child.
“You’re Not Welcomed Here”
No matter how old your child is or what they have done in their life, you should always welcome them home. They likely feel safe when they are at home because of your great parenting. Take it as a compliment that they want to be with you and around you!
“When You Were a Baby…”
Adults don’t always want to hear stories about when they were babies. They may find it quite embarrassing to hear stories about pooping in their pants or getting car sick on a family vacation. Especially do not tell these stories when your adult child is around their coworkers or friends.
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This article was first published at Spatula Desserts.
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